Hello my dear friends. All of three of you.
I need to write. I need to get it off my chest because I have no idea why I am in the predicament I’m in. I’m a hard worker, and I love people. I love my job…but my job doesn’t love me.
I’m about to lose it, again.
I’ve got two months to shape up or ship out. Unfortunately, I think my boss has already set the ship to sail. Maybe I didn’t get on his good side right away. I have no idea. But the fact remains that he believes the majority of the people that work for me don’t like me. I couldn’t honestly give a shit. I’m not there to make friends. I think I have a lot to offer. I know I have a lot to offer. And I really don’t think that many people hate me. I have my eye on a couple, but a couple is not the majority.
So, in the next two months, my boss will set out to show that I can’t cut it so he can fire me. I’m about to prove him very, very wrong. If you don’t hear from me until then, you’ll know why. If you do, then you’ll be hearing a lot from me because I’ll have a lot of time on my hands again.
April 30, 2007 at 3:25 am
I’m sorry to hear things aren’t going the way you’d like them to. However, I am a huge believer that everything happens for a reason. So if this doesn’t work out, I believe that something even better is just around the corner. But in the meantime, I wish you the best of luck–give ‘em hell!
April 30, 2007 at 11:33 am
Oh, umutha. What a crappy spot to be in. Be careful just to be you; don’t contort yourself, trying to guess what he’s looking for. You only have to answer to One for your actions. And what Character Builder said. Sometimes we think we’ve “arrived” at where we belong, but it turns out we’re just passing through, for some reason. Nothing wrong with that at all.
April 30, 2007 at 1:27 pm
If your boss is setting you up to fail instead of helping you to succeed, you should probably be looking for another job anyway.
I don’t say that to minimize what you’re going through. I know it’s difficult, and I hope you’ll keep Susie’s advice in mind–don’t bend over backward to please this guy, and don’t give up your integrity and sense of self in the process. It’s not worth it.
When you start feeling your stomach knot up, or when you can’t sleep at night, or when your clenched jaw starts to ache, just repeat that mantra: It’s not worth it. Because you know what? It isn’t. You may need the income, but you don’t necessarily need THIS job.
Hang in there!
April 30, 2007 at 3:36 pm
That sucks. But ditto what Sharkey said. Life is too short to bend over backwards making yourself miserable to please a boss you can never please. And you’re right, you really AREN’t there to make friends. I forget but I think you said you have like 80 employees to supervise? Of COURSE not all of them are gonna like you. Plus your commute sucks. Well, prove him wrong, but in the meantime I guess you gotta weigh your options again. Pray pray pray, and I’ll pray for ya too! Ugh.
April 30, 2007 at 3:41 pm
Oh, sweetie. I hope everything works out for the best. Love and hugs to you.
May 1, 2007 at 4:45 am
That’s too bad. It sounds like there might not really be anything that you can do if your Boss is already out to get you
I am impressed with your desire to prove him wrong though. That being said, don’t let it take you down though, it’s NOT worth it!!
Hang in there!!
May 1, 2007 at 11:58 am
Yeah… what they said. I used to be in that same situation and somehow worked through it. But I was on probation for almost two years – no raises, no bonuses, my name constantly on the shit list. My boss was eventually forced to leave. And actually, therapy helped me figure out the ways I was miscommunicating and back then I was a more dysfunctional version of myself, not that that is true for you at all.
I can’t imagine supervising so many people! Yowza. I have no idea what you do, but props to you. I wish you the best of luck getting through this. Whatever the outcome, wherever you end up, may you find what you need and get the support you deserve.
May 1, 2007 at 10:13 pm
I agree with what the rest have said, but wow. That sucks. Maybe it’s time to go full force into photography?
May 2, 2007 at 2:39 am
What Bente said. Quit that shit and be a full-fledged shutterbug.
May 2, 2007 at 6:14 am
Kick his ass, seabass. Hang in there.
May 2, 2007 at 12:58 pm
IF your boss has set up a time line I think it may be too late. Every comment here are all good words.
With out getting to personal about it…ask your boss what he/she thinks you need to do, put the ball in their court.
May 11, 2007 at 8:55 pm
What a pisser. Sorry I haven’t gotten here before now, but I’ve been mourning the loss of my precious digital camera. All is well now (see blog).
Anyway, I say, if you aren’t loving what you’re doing, maybe it’s all for the best anyway….and tell them to bite your ass, Redhead Mommy said so.
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